BETTER SENIOR SEX: Tips for Enjoying a Healthy Sex Life as You Age (part1))

Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and health-improving tool, and it’s certainly not only for the young. Sex matters throughout your life, and can actually take on an increased importance in your senior years. For older men and women alike, the benefits of good sex can be extensive: it can increase circulation, reduce anxiety, release painkilling endorphins—and help to relax and satisfy.

Talking about sex

• Be playful. Being playful can make communication about sex a lot easier. Use humor, gentle teasing, and even tickling to lighten the mood.
• Be honest. Honesty fosters trust and relaxes both partners—and can be very attractive. Let your partner know how you are feeling and what you hope for in a sex life.
• Discuss new ideas. If you want to try something new, discuss it with your partner, and be open to his or her ideas, too. The senior years—with more time and fewer distractions—can be a time of creativity and passion.
• Modernize.You may belong to a generation in which sex was a taboo subject. But talking openly about your needs, desires, and concerns with your partner can make you closer—and help you both enjoy sex and intimacy. 

Taking your time

• Stretch your experience. Start with a romantic dinner—or breakfast—before lovemaking. Share romantic or erotic literature and poetry. Having an experience together, sexual or not, is a powerful way of connecting intimately.
• Don’t be shy. Hold hands and touch your partner often, and encourage him or her to touch you. Tell your partner what you love about him/her, and share your ideas about new sexual experiences you might have together.
• Relax. Find something that relaxes both partners, whether it’s trying massage or baths together. Relaxation fosters confidence and comfort, and can help both erectile and dryness problems.

 

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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR PARTNER ABOUT SEXUAL ISSUES

Whether we are in a brand new relationship or have been married for forty years, when it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in. 

Time Required: Allow as much time as possible.

Here's How:

1. Clarify the Issue for Yourself
   Sex is complicated, your feelings may have as much to do with your own baggage and history as with your partner. If something is on your mind, sit with it for a while and clarify what doesn’t feel right. 
2. Try to Write it Down
   DWriting down what you want to talk about is a great step to clarify your issues for yourself and practice the way you might communicate it to your partner.
3. Practice the Talk
   This doesn't work for everyone, but if you’re nervous about talking it can help to do some practice talking. If you have a good friend you can do this with, great. If not, going through it on your own can help.