Thursday 22 September 2011

Are you a female sex and love addict?

Dear reader of visitor of my blog, if you answer Yes to any of these questions believe me something is wrong somewhere and If you think you need help feel free to contact me.

1. Do you feel that your life is becoming or is unmanageable because of your sexual and/or romantic behavior or your excessive dependency needs?

2. Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?

3. Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities? Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others – friends, family, co-workers, counselors, etc.?

4. Do you get “high” from sex and/or romance and then crash when the act or experience is over?

5.  Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?

6. Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?

7. Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex with?

8. Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?

9. Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?

10. Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?

11. Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?

12. Do you feel like a lifeless puppet unless there is someone around with whom you can flirt? Do you feel that you’re not “really alive” unless you are with your sexual/romantic partner?

13. Have you ever threatened your financial stability, career or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?

14. Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?

15. Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex? Do you feel that you would have no identity if you were not someone’s lover?

16. Do you find yourself flirting with or sexualizing someone even if that was not your intention?

17. Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?

18. Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?

19. Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex?

20. Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?