Saturday 17 September 2011

How To Avoid Awkward Moments After Sex (PART 1)

  • What You Need To Know
  • Never apologize for your sexual performance afterward.
  • Always make sure to communicate openly about sex.
  • If she's just a one-night stand, let her know before you hop into bed with her.
There you are lying in bed. And there she is lying next to you. You just finished having sex with a girl you’ve been dating (or you’ve just met), and your mind is filling with these questions:

Did she come? Did she enjoy it? Was I good? Did I hold out long enough? Does she want to do this again? Does she expect me to cuddle her? Should I get up? Should I go to the bathroom? Should I leave? 
 

Or, if she's at your place, does she want to leave?

When you first start having sex with a new woman, you really want to avoid awkward moments after sex because, well, it's awkward. There's no ifs, ands or buts about it. You just don't know this person very well. Maybe you’ve known her for a day, a week or a month.

Avoid those awkward moments

First off, figure out ahead of time what this woman means to you. If it's the first time you're having sex with someone who you actually like and may want to be in a relationship with, you need to relax and realize that no matter what it's like the first time, it's only going to get better from there on out. This is because sex only gets better with time, experience and knowledge of your partner. Also realize that if this is a woman you like and you think you're headed in the direction of a relationship, you must have an open line of communication about sex, and not just right after that one session. You can do it on the next date -- even the next day. Turn to her and say, “Last night was great with you. Is there anything that you'd like me to do? What do you really like? What do you really enjoy?”

Don't bring it up directly after sex, because her head will be spinning with thoughts just like yours. But do it the very next day so you both have some time to process and learn more about each other. And it may take some time depending on how open she is. But if you lead and you are open, she will say: “Last night was great the way you moved,” or “Last night was great the way you went down on me. Can you do that again?”

The point is for you to start to open lines of communication so that you can really learn from her sexually and show her you are not ashamed of having sex with her. This is how you'll avoid those awkward moments after sex. Communication is the absolute key to a good sex life.



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